go on. we'll wait.
| A | B | |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | How are you? | FINE |
| 2 | How are you really? | FINE (see cell B1) |
| 3 | That thing from March | #REF! error |
| 4 | Grief | hidden row |
| 5 | Joy | =IF(WORK_DONE,"later","later") |
| 6 | Status | circular reference detected |
The green button chases you because the part of you that avoids is pushy: productive avoidance never needs willpower, it volunteers. The red button dodges because that is how feelings behave when you grab at them with the energy you bring to a to-do list. And then the real mechanism, which you just felt: it stops running when you stop lunging. Approach slower than the fear.
This blog is the long version: therapy that goes deeper than talking (EMDR, parts work, the body-level kinds), calming the nervous system, getting back into the body, explained by how it works instead of vibes, for people whose spreadsheets are immaculate.